"Girls always want to be fucked"

So lately, i've been off my game... the whole sex thing was just not that exciting and i didn't really feel like sleeping with anyone.

There was a point last week that even my masterbation was off, like i couldn't even arouse myself enough to even cum like normal...I felt really weird about that and was really worried for a second that I lost my ability to orgasm!!


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And then I realized I was delusional and had sex with various various people.

---- I'll update on that later, right now I wanna talk about what just happened last night.

So there is this dude that I have wanted for a time, thing is he friends with my ex...buttt any who we ended up in the same bar, drinking and then in the same bed.

Last night however there was mucho less drinking and it was planned outing with the intent to sex him good afterwards.

1. I came, finally, many times, and my faith was restored.
2. However he said something really odd but I think true because of misconceptions

"I've never had a girl want to be on top, they always just want to be fucked"..he went on to say its so refreshing and a turn on that I was on top and liked it and knew what I wanted.

This made me happy and sad at the same time. Happy = because I love when a guy appreciates a woman who knows what she wants and is willing to lay back and take it. Sad = because a. he said "women always want to be fucked" as if when your not on top,  you are the one getting fucked and b. some women do get off better laying on their backs but also c. I do feel that a lot of women think that being on their back is the only/best position because its the most common which makes me EVEN more sad/happy because I made this blog to empower more women to go out there and take the reins and fuck people and to get them on their backs and get what you want instead of just taking it.

Moral of the Story:
Women - go be more aggressive in the bedroom, get up there and take the reins (seriously girl on top for me is the best position - guarantee cum, FOR SURE)
Men - lay on your back every once in a while and let girls FUCK you, help women who are timid or whatever to get up there and experience the full power of your dick (i swear it reaches more places with girl on top)

Fuck Buddy Found...

In the past few months, I've learned quite a bit about myself.

I'll expand on all after....

1. I don't mind and quite encourage threesomes (especially DRUNK me) - I call it team building
2. I'm DEFINTELY bi-sexual
3. fuck buddy found ...and she is a girl, bonafide vagina and tits girl; which is AMAZING

Now everyone can go WTF, how did a straight girl who likes fucking dudes ALOT change it up and start fucking girls?

Well one, bisexual doesn't mean that im greedy and im not CHOOSING to be this way, hell it would be alot easier to be just straight, then i don't have to explain myself, it would also slim down the options cause fuck there already are so many options with just dudes.. *brain exploding*
So FUCK IT...its a real thing
I still like dick - in and around my poon
BUT I also like the rush of getting a girl off and the feeling of boobs on my body; its heavenly.

The whole realizing I'm bi thing has been my main reason for not blogging lately, its been a tad hard for me to come to grips with it and be ok with sharing it with anyone outside the girl i was fucking - also I didn't know how to approach it on here and whether you all would be interested in my stories even though they now will have more female appearances.

But here I am, like it or not...I'm gonna keep writing about my experiences and LOVE YOU ALL STILL.

Now, onto the first bullet - I think im going to make a whole seperate entry about that, since it seems to be a hot topic in my life lately and have a bit to say about it.

NEW FUCK BUDDY NEEDED!!

Having a good fuck buddy is essential

The relationship is a very unique one... the way I like mine to play out is this:

- we are friends - we prob don't hang out with the same people all the time or ever, but we can each hang out with each others friends no prob
- we both know that this is just what it is...and its NOT and never will become a relationship
- sex is good and we don't have to have dinner first or watch a tv show or movie  (again we know what   this is)
- they have their own place or a car that way sex can happen easier (ill go back to car sex if i have to)
- sleeping over is optional and isn't awkward cause who gives a fuck....we friends and we fuck
- never expect to be invited out to events by one another...if they happen to be there great, if not who cares...ITS NOT A RELATIONSHIP (at the end of the night if im not fucking someone...then we can text each other - its mutually beneficial)

- the fuck buddy has to be someone that you think is hot or that you think is great in bed but there is something between the two of you that you just KNOW you would never work out together - but we young and horny soo lets fuck who we want, when we want, as often as we want.

and to end that - I need one..I don't even remember how to go about finding one, its hard to find the perfect one but I HAVE to, soon.

MY LOINS DON'T WANT TO WAIT ANY LONGER.
 -- however I think I now have a candidate in mind...

Asian Gang-STAH

He was legit, an asian gangster in asia. Met (I use the term "met" loosely - more like I spotted him) him in Hong Kong (hence why he is legit).

Me and my friends would always go to this one club on tuesday - it was free cover for ladies and open bar all night...soo why the fuck not. Aside from us expat folks there, there always seemed to be an gangster asian population on tuesdays too.

This particular night, I felt like changing things up, time for a challenge and just an excuse to be ridiculous. I had declared that tonite, I would infiltrate the asian gangsters (cause they never even noticed or talked to the expat peeps) and my goal was to dance and even maybe take one home (if I found a hottie one, or ya know...open bar always helps my options).

Within no time, I was dancing with the whole group of them, just around and around, there was one who was more into tieing the crazy white chick down soooo of course I hopped into a cab with him.

This guy lived like a journey away! (which now i knew meant i HAD to sleep over ) we get there...he owns a house, dogs, car, garage...everything - if you don't know people in Hong Kong don't just own houses...everyone lives in apartments or condos. So I knew instantly that this guy didn't just dress ghetto gangster....he was one!

For a gangster he was pretty soft...I was expecting some ruff shit - NOPE

he made us both go for a shower together (sooo awkward..."i don't know you man!") and he wanted to wash my body (that shit is just uncomfortable - I DON'T KNOW YOU); so i hopped quick out of there   and made my way to the bedroom to do what I know I would enjoy! -- SEX AND MORE SEX

Now that i knew he was soft, I knew I could tell him what to do and he would obey everything - we had sex. There is really nothing to say about the sex, he was like most HK locals and not so well endowed but I played nice like always and then I was like SLEEP TIME!

But no...he talked for like 2 hours about this chick he was gonna marry and then she left him and then started talking about his businesses and MAN I just wanted to up and leave, he was such a sad man for being like almost 30 and supposedly a friggen gangstah.

OH PS ..did i mention for all swagged out he looked with his clothes on, once they were off....he SERIOUSLY  had the body of a maybe 14 yr old boy.

I wanted to be up and going so fast out of this in the morning - In the morning he showed me all this stock of clothing cause he owned a bunch of stores in downtown and was offering me all these things FO FREE. I knew i couldn't take any just because i would feel obliged to at least give him another chance when all i wanted was to not talk nor see his face again!

That didn't happen till like the afternoon - he took me for breakfast (i wanted to puke) and then he rode the transit with me ALL the way back to my area (like DUDE, WTF WE JUST HAD SEX)

ugh...after that, I was over HK locals, onto the next foreign beasts to check off

That Time I Initiated a Threesome...

This started out like any other threesome would....at a bar


The three people involved were myself, one of my girlfriends, and one of my guy friends.

Lets call my girlfriend Ariel and the guy Aladdin for sake of ease.
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Ariel recently got a job out of province in a place much less populated than where were currently lived, and she was coming back home to visit for the week. I was allotted the friday night for getting to spend time with her and she had told me specifically "I want to GET LAID tonight  its my only night free and back in civilization where there is good pickings and I really don't care who it is, but its been forever and I NEED it"

Being the great friend that I am, I said HELL YEA, eassssssyyy. So naturally we invite all our friends to the bar for a reunion, plus I know that she and one of the them were fuck buddies before and thus would be down, and if not, ITS A BAR!

At the bar, drinking, everyones arrived and it was great, except fuck buddy can't come, sooo now its hunting season and most of our friends have work in the morn so people are slowly just leaving! LAAAMMEEEE!

Aladdin goes to us "why don't we just go back to mine and drink so that we don't have to call it a night to fast"; now i know that Aladdin ALWAYS has tons of alcohol at his place and is always generous, so i'm down buttt that lowers our pickings for Ariel down to one and i don't know if shes down. Lo and behold, she says she is down for going to his place cause then we can continue drinking and the whole night isn't a disaster.

So like any good threesome story, it never started out being planned as a threesome.

We drove to his place in my car, get there, open a bottle of champagne....finish it, open another and I realize "OK guys, i can't drink anymore or else it DEFINITELY won't be safe for me to drive us (me and ariel) back home (to my place)." Aladdin says "well i'll pay for DADS, so KEEP DRINKING" (which is a taxi company that comes with two people and one drives you home and the other drives your car home behind you - smart right? i know!)

Well you don't have to twist my arm to get me to drink free booze AND pay for my cab home.
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I don't remember finishing that last drink...not a single clue...

Breaking Up

So officially single lady again. We had a good run, was in a legit relationship for about a year or so....well we were at least sleeping together for a year.

I'm not broken up about it, I knew it was coming and also knew that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him.

So to keep this from getting ANY sappier... my last notes on relationships:

This was my longest and most legit relationship i've ever been in and it was the learning experience of a lifetime.

Both being single and being in a relationship have their pros and cons - I learned what it really meant to be cared about and thought about on a constant basis, someone always wondering what you thought or what you were doing that wasn't just your friend. That is nice, and comforting; not something i've ever been used to and was most likely always afraid of.

So thanks to him! for teaching me about all the good things of relationships and how valuable and lovely they are.

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On the other hand there is all the freedom to do whomever and whatever you want to do when single and no one to answer to. There is the doing whatever your heart desires always and whenever that is great about single. There is the extra time that you can spend learning about yourself and really caring about and going crazy over yourself. It's really a time that you can sit back and reflect and be selfish until you find that person that will complement what you really are and want out of life.
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AKA whether your single or taken, enjoy it and cherish it =)

HOLAY SHIITTEE

So it's been a hot minute since i've updated.

Quick run through:
got a bf, that was great, but just wasnt meant to be and was half cheating on him with another dude who i had my eye on for a LOOONGG time.

broke up with old bf and then started dating new bf and we've been together for about 9 months.
ROUND OF APPLAUSE - please and thanks (oh and ive been faithful and not done anything that a gf shouldn't be doing)

i think the having a bf thing is hindering my talking about sex...seeing as they (both of them -new and old) slightly take offence if im "thinking" about other guys.

Anywho, I've got some time, I miss this and all the fun it brings and sharing my stories. SOOOOO here is some more.

OH anddd for the past little while or so I have been telling my friends and whoever else that my number was "i thought" the low 30s....MANNNN was I wrong.

TRY 40
woah.

Feminist Porn Awards

I know i've been on hiatus for ENOUGH time.

FYI - for everyone that lives in the Toronto, or Greater Toronto Area. 

The 7th Annual Feminist Porn Awards are going on and the GALA takes place tomorrow evening.

Taken from their website:
This will be a "fabulous celebration of your favourite porn makers, plus a night of mind-blowing entertainment, a mountain of eye candy and the best movie clips ever seen at an awards show. Featuring hot entertainment from Ill Na Na, Olive-or-Oliver & CoCo La Creme and hosted by Elvira Kurt with Ryan G. Hinds." 


Tickets are still on sale and for today they will be 25$ whereas tomorrow at the door, it will go up to 30$.


Make your way out if you can, it will be a great night out for you, to open up communications of sex and relationships and gender in your current relationships and friendships.


=)
Peace and Love all! 


Oh!! also check out the Good For Her website to check out other events they are hosting in conjunction with the Feminist Porn Awards. (ie: discussing open relationships, dirty talk, and a porn play party ft. a LEGIT porn shoot)

#16 - New Meat In The Kitchen

I was lucky with the last place I worked at, simply because there was always good looking people being hired and that I got to spend time and work with often!

I think I got around 4-5 kills from that place. ;)

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We got a new cook at work and he had tats, was cute, nice lips, good hair ...basically I saw a new hot  challenge.
When he started, I quickly found out he had a girlfriend, which to me means off limits - my dreams were crushed...until I found out they were on a break and he was free bird - it was my time to POUNCE.

Being in the service industry, we all like the "finer things in life" aka  we always go for drinks after work and this night was no exception, except that the new cook was coming because he was finally unattached.

This was one of the first times I had ever really encountered serious whiskey dick/coke dick. At the time I was only starting to learn more about him, as he was fairly new at work. This was the night that I would find out that he did a shit ton of coke (I had never even met anyone who did coke ever, nor had I even seen it before! - so this was a shock for me.) anddd that he was pretty drunk.

Talk it out...

OMG epiphany sex!

New year eve/day totally got down with BF. It was just spontaneous, don't care about who else was in the house, loud, dirty, don't give a fuck good sex!

I got a bruise on my head and knee - I wear them as badges of honor.

You know that saying "Practice what you preach"

Well I guess i've been ignoring my own advice; ideally I usually coax men into what I want... (roughness: pulling the hair, smacking my ass, a little bit of choking). BF has been fairly good with doing the above but he is always so afraid of hurting me because he is actually stronger than me. But FOR REAL, its sex, I can take a lot! Sometimes I would take the approach of..."you can't hit me, you're not strong enough, what? are you trying to tickle me?" question his manhood a bit -- didn't work --

2012

It's 2012 bitcheeeesss!

New year usually means new resolutions, new loves, new experiences, a chance to start over with a clean slate.

I drink to all of you here reading about my sexperiences, and to the hope that you are all getting yourselves laid, having amazing mind blowing sex always, to falling in love, to finding more about yourself than ever before and to another year filled with surprises.

Boom! That was about as deep as I could get for all of you. I hope you appreciated and take that all to heart, I only mean well.

Now also don't hate just cause i havn't posted in a while. It was exam time, then holidays, and then the whole thing about having a boyfriend who in my opinion is no where close to my number of experiences and also has no idea about this and thus its hard to think about past sex objects and never tell him about what I do on the interwebs.
BUT FUCK IT....I will continue documenting everything until I have nothing left to say or for some reason can't have SEX anymore (the HORROR!)

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

"Ode to Orgasms"

One of my friends posted this to her facebook and anything with the word "orgasm" in the title is obviously worth a look.

"Ode to Orgasms"

This basically is what I try to tell any woman whenever they ask about sex and why I write about my experiences and why i'm so passionate (read: nympho) about all things sex.

No woman should ever be gipped out of an orgasm and for real...girls, when I have sex with someone, its cause I want to and I will make DAMN sure that I will be satisfied. Don't let your orgasm be reliant on what the man does to you. Take charge in the bedroom and you'll find that you will enjoy sex more, have more orgasms and ultimately want more sex.

Peace and Love Y'all

-PS: Girls let me know what is your fave position that gets you off best? (comments or twitter)

Me: I like getting it from behind and I like being on top (especially if he is sitting up) forrrr sure.

THANKS THANKS

I was made aware that mysexlifewithlola (a fellow sexual themed blogger) made reference to my site.

I just want to say thanks and if you like what I write, you can check out their site as well as their suggestions of other related sites. Its a really good list and it will definitely warm you up during these cold winter months.

Again thanks 

=)

Never NOT been single.

One of my boys birthdays was this weekend, he threw a big party and so I though I would bring along the new BF as a "coming out/check out my NON singleness. It was a hit, people I didn't even know were telling us that we looked good together, all the boys were nice to him and inclusive.

I had no doubt that he would be good with all of the them but it was DEFINITELY weird being with all my boys and having a BF there too.

Its been 5-6 years that this group of friends have been going strong and being 1 of 2 girls that are not a girlfriend of one of the boys in the group of like 10, its odd to be bringing a new dude into the mix.

The boys have always said to us two (the girls of the group) - jokingly - that no matter what we can't bring our bfs around. That has never really been a problem cause it's not like im gonna bring around fuck buddies and I was always under the impression that I probably was never going to settle down - so no problemo there.

Alas, things don't always turn out like they are planned and here I am bringing a dude into our nice little group.
PLUSS...it's not like the boys havn't brought their girlfriends around and made us (me and the other chick) play nice with these "girlfriends" that we didn't know if they would last or not.

PS. a little about the BF.

He
- reallly likes sex. Like alot alot - perfect for my insatiableness.
- really likes my tittttays
- enjoys my BJs.
- kisses me on the forehead
 -- thus I do like everything about him

HOWEVER
being that I have had more experience than the regular old joe when it comes to the bedroom...there are somethings that I would slowly like to introduce to him aka
- a little bit of roughness (read...a LOT more roughness)
- maybe pull my hair sometimes
- maybe spit on your cock a bit (cause you want it so bad that you don't want to wait)
- give me some bruises (so i can be reminded of where you were on me the next day - aka on my tit, ass, stomach, inner thigh, etc)
- smack my ass a bit
- throw me down on the bed and hold me there, choke me a bit
etc.
(i know - all sex related, simply because I like everything else about it, except for how TOO nice he is in bed)

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#5 - everybody gets a taste

I probably met him in grade 10, at the time he was one of my best friends boyfriends and one of my best guy friends. We always had some sexual tension going on between us but hey she was my best friend and I was still innocent. At some point in high school, they broke up and we tried the dating thing, lasted all of 5 hours in which time he took my first French kiss (which was slobbery and horrible, almost like he was just licking me - ugh).

I couldn't bare having one of my bffs mad at me so that stopped and they started dating again. In high school, I had 2 best friends, we were like a trio - actually our nickname was "teen girl squad" - later in our school career, the two girls started not getting along and were fighting with me in the middle trying to keep the peace. In the end I moved away and uni came so I just forgot to care about their drama; although I kept in touch with them separately.

During first year uni, found out that #5 and his long time gf weren't together anymore, meanwhile found out from my other BFF that she had started fucking him. This is when I learned that he was super good, and they were just fucking, and that he still had a thing for me and wanted to have sex with me at least once. I was not about to deny that opportunity especially since I was no more BFFs with his ex long time gf and the other girl had blatantly gave me permission and pretty much set up when we were gonna "hang out".

He was my number 5, obviously I was still noob at all things sex. Everything was exciting, my sex drive was an all time high, I could have sex like 8 times and "she" would still want to go on for more. I almost want to say it was comparable to #3. He made me cum 3 times, hard cumming! This was one of the first times I squirted, he used his fingers to get it out of me and all of a sudden he was like WOAHH you just shot out all on my arm!
I was in denial "what, no, no way, really?, where?, show me" And he showed me, it wasn't what it is now but he opened my eyes to the possibility and I have never since then cum the way he made me. In case ya'll didn't know already I'm totally penetration oriented, like I love my clit ...but seriously get in there where the good shit is!! So while he was inside me going at it (which was also good, he was probably the second biggest i've encountered) when I was getting close to cumming he would pull out and finish it with his fingers and it was like a black out, I just couldn't control myself!

After every time I would have to sit there curled in a ball for the next 30 seconds and become aware of what my legs and arms feel like again.

The female orgasm is a great, great thing.

OH SHOOT!

So even though i came hardcore, it was not all that great.

He went down on me at some point during this; the worst! - i don't know if he had his eyes closed or he just didn't know what a clit looks like or where it's located but he was super excited and gung ho to be down there and was really adamant that he liked eating girls out...too bad he SUCKED at it.
Lucky for him, i'm not super into that so i just pushed his head away and was like just "get 'er done" and the fact that his dick was nice and was skilled with his fingers.

Mass Text

In case you don't follow me on twitter...

the last person in the world you would think would find herself with a boy loyally....aka ME - now is dating a most beautiful and sweet sweet man.

As it all was setting in, I realized that now i have to send a MASS text out to 

1. my loyal long time fuck buddy

2. this other dude who had a nice dick and could make me squirt like no tomorrow (who i started hanging out with again to benefit from that d.)

3. and my boy who I told that I would be down for a threesome with his chick

...when i step back and look at this, i just shake my head, does anyone else have to do this when they also go serious?

My goal of the evening is to do this cause i like my boo and im ready for this steadiness.

Be Proud Y'all

=)

ps. don't think the blog is done....i still have more stories left to tell. ;)

Funny Cartoons.

While perusing the internet for research and/or just basic creeping through peoples facebook/tumblr/twitter...etc

These are couple of pics/graphs that i found that are GREAT.

This one was particularly funny simply because it actually happened...I mean it was the other way around and he was asking me. But yea it happened and my response was - maybe, not right away but eventually.

just a basic graph of different things that people perhaps may say in bed

and then this last one has nothing to do with sex but so so good.

Dry Spell

Lately I've gotten a new job, its super demanding but so good good!

but now consequently I am super busy; two jobs, school and studying is leaving a very minimal amount of social life time in my weeks.

SO SAD

aside from that, its been two weeks since my last romp in the sack and its killing me. 

I just want some mind shattering sex, orgasm squirting, non commital sex.

The last couple months I'm pretty sure i've only been with my usual FB (fuck buddy), and being that its been now 2 years - i'm getting bored.

Seriously the same sex all the time, i know exactly what he wants, where he wants it, how he wants it and its all so vanilla, i'm just so disinterested. - Like there is nothing exciting about it, and hes not so much on the trying new things once he found something that works.

I need new person sex, the excitement of a new person and discovery is so enticing and makes me wet with excitemnent thinking about the next person that i will pounce on. - the fantasies have gotten pretty intense; being that i live on a street with many eligible men walking around going to the many bars, one night last week i had to physically stop myself from just going outside and finding the first person and taking them into my house.

I NEEEEEDDDD !!

Side Note: how do people stay in relationships? I don't even spend much time with the FB and now im bored... I'm failing hardcore, scared to even think what i would be like in a relationship!!

How do you stay interested in sex with the same person day in and day out? Help a sista out...comments?

HPV - WTF?!

This is more of a serious informative post - so prepare yourselves!

A few months ago, I read an article that was talking about how the HPV virus can now be causing throat cancer.

At that time, it was still not proven and was more speculation however i was scared shitless.

I mean first I had to watch out for vagina cancer and nowwww I have to give BJs with condoms on.

These disease are really taking all the fun out of sex.

As I sit in this coffee shop, the tv playing the news just informed that now "HPV positive tumors are the leading cause of throat cancer"

Guys, honestly about 8 months ago, during my routine pap test, we found that I had HPV up in thurr. I was terrified, i didn't want cancer, i didn't know what this meant.

I went to a specialist and we had to monitor it, apparently most of the time it clears up on its own and no need to worry. I still cried like all the time for a full week.

In case you are all worried about me, the doc tells me that its all clear now and i'm fine.

Back to HPV in the world. HPV is soon to bypass tobacco as the number one reason for oral cancer!

So FOR REAL....please; all men and women go get PAP tests regularly, practice safer sex.

Check out this website for some chilling facts and/or you can always plainly google "HPV"

HPV and Oral Cancers

"I want to look into your eyes" #14

In grade 12 my family and I moved away. Naturally I always went back to my old area to go party with my original highschool friends.

However this was more like 2 year after i had moved and was slightly out of touch with my original ghetto "peeps"- but i was invited and did want to catch up with everyone sooo off i went to this party.

Turned out that i only knew a few people at the party, it seemed as though the group had grown ALOT.
I was going in and out of the house finding beers and people that i still had yet to talk to. Every time i went outside there was a boy who i caught watching me MULTIPLE times!
He was a friend of a friends as well as quite hot. Later on he approached me and introduced himself
"WAA, big accent" is what i thought, learned we just moved from brazil, he was so pretty and charming which made sense since he was a model at some point in brazil

Being in ghetto town again, naturally a HUGE fight broke out, and cops swarming the place...but not before my friends and i fled the area in my convenient car.

By friends and I, I really mean my friends and my friend who was friends with this Brazilian all went back to their house for a more tame after party.

Me and this beauty started making out at some point and decided it was time to go back to his for some "wine". He actually did have wine, which I didn't get to finish of course.

This sex was like something I had never experienced at the time, it was way too intense and loving and i remember thinking "this must be what making love is like", and that is when it was time to switch up positions and not be so close cause again..i was JUST fucking.

He was so super soft everywhere, decent dick, and just wanted to hold me all over. After we finished, I had never cuddled before this and so moved over to my side of the bed, turned over and tried to sleep for all of 30 seconds before he started holding me. This steamy man asked me to turn around and face him because he wanted to "look into my eyes" and "wanted to fall asleep like this".

Read on for the aftermath!