Talk it out...

OMG epiphany sex!

New year eve/day totally got down with BF. It was just spontaneous, don't care about who else was in the house, loud, dirty, don't give a fuck good sex!

I got a bruise on my head and knee - I wear them as badges of honor.

You know that saying "Practice what you preach"

Well I guess i've been ignoring my own advice; ideally I usually coax men into what I want... (roughness: pulling the hair, smacking my ass, a little bit of choking). BF has been fairly good with doing the above but he is always so afraid of hurting me because he is actually stronger than me. But FOR REAL, its sex, I can take a lot! Sometimes I would take the approach of..."you can't hit me, you're not strong enough, what? are you trying to tickle me?" question his manhood a bit -- didn't work --



Finally new year eve/day came and we were kinda weed high, and tipsy so at some point i just blurted out. PULL MY HAIR... PLEASE..just grab it. -- he listened and wanted to and was so happy that i wanted it. I thought I was being obvious before...not for man brain.

MY ADVICE AGAIN: when it comes to matters of the bedroom, its just always best to talk it out, say what you want. You may be surprised (like me).

Yesterday he told me how happy he was that I was into my hair being pulled and told me that he tried a few others things with me like light choking (When he said that i was like HOLD UP...that is what you've been doing - definitely just thought you were just holding on, there was NO choking up in that). When I replied I tried being a bit nicer and said you can try light choking a bit harder maybe?

Thus, new year is off to a good start and we decided that fucking our way into the new year is a great tradition and shall be kept forever more.

Cheers