Talk it out...

OMG epiphany sex!

New year eve/day totally got down with BF. It was just spontaneous, don't care about who else was in the house, loud, dirty, don't give a fuck good sex!

I got a bruise on my head and knee - I wear them as badges of honor.

You know that saying "Practice what you preach"

Well I guess i've been ignoring my own advice; ideally I usually coax men into what I want... (roughness: pulling the hair, smacking my ass, a little bit of choking). BF has been fairly good with doing the above but he is always so afraid of hurting me because he is actually stronger than me. But FOR REAL, its sex, I can take a lot! Sometimes I would take the approach of..."you can't hit me, you're not strong enough, what? are you trying to tickle me?" question his manhood a bit -- didn't work --